So You Found A Keeper

So You Found A Keeper

Now How Do You Keep Them?

This would be the second most frequently question I’m asked when it comes to the Dating Scene and Adult Romantic Relationships. The first most asked question is “How do I know if they are lying, or more to the point how do I avoid the psychopaths?” But that’s the topic for my new books, dating events, courses and other posts (all of which are at various stages of development and completion).

So how do you keep your partner and keep the relationship alive?

You’ll have heard of the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch

It’s not a bad place to start but it still leave a lot unanswered.

  • How do you speak those words of affirmation?
  • What constitutes quality time and how do you spend it and doing what?
  • What type of gifts?
  • What constitutes an act of service; what form should it take and how should it be delivered?
  • And the physical touch; when, where and how much? Should it be gentle, playful or more active? What should it involve?

The answers to these questions are relatively simple. But they are not something that you’ll pick up in a conversation, not without it sounding like a medical consultation or make you sound like you don’t have a clue. Nor will you answer it in a questionnaire; not to the level that will take the relationship into the future or to another level.

Learning to recognise your partners personality traits; how they want to be treated and spoken too will give you far more awareness.

In the example I profiled a couple from just their photos using Visual Trait Profiling. As he explains, they found the reports I gave each of them extremely accurate. By reading each other’s profiles they understood each other better. In a fun way they were able to explore their differences and were able to understand each other far better than they did before. The whole process became an adventure for them…and it can also be the same for you.

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Alan Stevens